an open letter to ira gray
(trigger warning: sexual violence, relationship abuse)
we are not gonna mess with telling you more that what’s already been said. here’s what we want you to do:
— write an open letter taking full responsibility for your rapes of e.w. and lauren, and your abuse of us and any other partners. do not mince words, do not explain yourself, just say outright that you are a serial rapist, are terrible at consent, are a violent misogynist in both beliefs and practice, and have been an abusive partner in the majority of your relationships. send this letter to every organization that has ever given you a platform, including: the orange county ftm group, the arizona transmasculine society, TRACK, arizona state university’s lgbtq coalition, and the huffington post.
— resign from any positions of power you hold. that includes the self made men, az feminist action network, one in ten, phoenix youth pride, and any other positions that include you working with people who do not have access to male privilege.
— take down your blog, your youtube channel, and any other “educational” platforms you may manage. never again give a workshop, run or organize a lecture, accept a speaking position, or ever spout your brand of “activism” before another human being. explicitly renounce your role as an educator. do not ever again refer to yourself as an activist, a role model, a teacher, an example, or an ally (even aspiring).
— do not participate in any activist events, meetings, online forums, protests, workshops, parties, or any other gatherings, in person or online. remove yourself from any community where you might interact with someone who does not have access male privilege, or where you might convince someone who has access to male privilege to act as you have.
— do not EVER contact e.w. or lauren ever again. do not contact our friends or family members. relinquish all claims to shared social and activist circles to us. do not contact our mutual acquaintances to talk about us. do not read our blogs. do not read our facebooks. basically, remove yourself entirely from our lives, forever.
(to our supporters, please spread this letter around.)