prince of trail mix

everyone at DHL is STUPID i am ANGRY

underworks didnt leave my address correctly on the package so guess whose package was apparently destroyed five days ago

you guessed it

ANDYS BINDER HAS BEEN DESTROYED 

guess who was told that his binder would be redelivered yesterday

you guessed it 

ANDY WAS

guess who’s spending all day on the phone with underworks because dhl is the worst but can’t do anything else

aND Y IS

guess whos agnry sobbin

ANdy I s

no matter how hard i flap my wings

y0uneedad0ct0rbabyy:

This all happened during a trip to Ihop - I love how I feel comfortable talking about trans stuff around my mom and sister now :)

• My mom called me Sir at Ihop
• I brought up binders to my mom again and she said we could order one TODAY she even had my sister leave money in the account just so I could order AN UNDERWORKS BINDER:)
• I had a conversation with my mom and sister about why I don’t like using public bathrooms and changing rooms.

My sister said: If you feel more comfortable in the boys bathrooms and changing rooms then just use those.

My mom wasn’t really okay with that she said she’s afraid “someone will beat me up” But I told her I’d rather go in the boys bathrooms than be looked at weirdly in the girls rooms and then

my sister said: You look like a little boy, you’d be fine!

So even though I can’t use the boys bathrooms/changing rooms when I’m with my mom I CAN use them when I go places with my sister!

• My sister: I told Phalen that you were sleeping in my bed the other day and he told me that if you’re going to be a boy you need to learn to not steal a girls bed.

Me: Wait, you told him?

My sister: that’s okay right?

Me: Yeah, you guys just never tell me when you tell people!

My sister: Alright, well I’m gonna tell everyone!

My mom: Yeah I figured it would be better to tell everyone so that they don’t ask you questions.

So apparently I’m out to basically everyone which works for me!

• My mom: Kids meals are 5 dollars

Me: But we don’t have any kids…

My sister: We can just say you’re an eleven year old boy.

Me: I look AT LEAST 12.

sweeeeetie piiiiiie

this is so rad

oh-voldey-voldemort:

The last time I wore a dress was my grade seven graduation (though I do believe I wore skirt for a funeral one time after that, not that I wanted to) I remember feeling extremely uncomfortable for all of the graduation. I tried to look happy for pictures and tried to be comfortable but on the inside I felt terrible. It was one of the first times in my life I felt extreme gender dysphoria. 

My Mom and I were just looking through old pictures and she found the ones from the grad. She smiled and showed them to me, I didn’t have much interest in them, and I saw her looking at them, she looked a sad. 

I know I shouldn’t, but I feel so guilty. 

I know that feel, baby boo. It’s the worst feeling. 

You’re a human and your feels are valid but if she needs to process she needs to do so in a way that is not at your expense.

I love you, man. Be well.

oh-voldey-voldemort:

So whenever I try to find ways to swim pre top surgery the advice I always get is “just tell people you’ll burn with out a shirt” except I’m not white at all and there is no way anyone would ever believe that or even assume if I were on a public beach or something. 

So does anyone have any advice for what they say if they’re swimming and someone asks? Or any advice on this subject? I hate having to lie and tell people that I don’t know how to swim. Thanks. 

I just wear rash guards, bro. Rash guards are fairly unassuming.

queerandpheasantstranger:

(trigger warning: sexual violence, relationship abuse)

we are not gonna mess with telling you more that what’s already been said. here’s what we want you to do:

— write an open letter taking full responsibility for your rapes of e.w. and lauren, and your abuse of us and any other partners. do not mince words, do not explain yourself, just say outright that you are a serial rapist, are terrible at consent, are a violent misogynist in both beliefs and practice, and have been an abusive partner in the majority of your relationships. send this letter to every organization that has ever given you a platform, including: the orange county ftm group, the arizona transmasculine society, TRACK, arizona state university’s lgbtq coalition, and the huffington post.

— resign from any positions of power you hold. that includes the self made men, az feminist action network, one in ten, phoenix youth pride, and any other positions that include you working with people who do not have access to male privilege. 

— take down your blog, your youtube channel, and any other “educational” platforms you may manage. never again give a workshop, run or organize a lecture, accept a speaking position, or ever spout your brand of “activism” before another human being. explicitly renounce your role as an educator. do not ever again refer to yourself as an activist, a role model, a teacher, an example, or an ally (even aspiring).

— do not participate in any activist events, meetings, online forums, protests, workshops, parties, or any other gatherings, in person or online. remove yourself from any community where you might interact with someone who does not have access male privilege, or where you might convince someone who has access to male privilege to act as you have.

— do not EVER contact e.w. or lauren ever again. do not contact our friends or family members. relinquish all claims to shared social and activist circles to us. do not contact our mutual acquaintances to talk about us. do not read our blogs. do not read our facebooks. basically, remove yourself entirely from our lives, forever.

signed,

e.w. (queerandpheasantstranger) and lauren (bloodmouthprince)

(to our supporters, please spread this letter around.)

cardboardmoose:

also

does anyone know of any good guides for parents of trans* kids?

i need one to give my parents

i’m reading the gendered intelligence one right now and it’s…rubbing me up entirely the wrong way by basically saying “the most important thing is the comfort of the family” rather than “the most important thing is the mental wellbeing of the trans* person”

which is definitely not the message i want my family to get

and it seriously just advocated the use of the phrase “sex change” because it’s “easier”

so fuck that

anyone?

This has got to be the best one. Quality content and an interesting perspective? Fuck yeah.

ALL THE VALIDATION!