okay so let me point out everything that’s wrong with that conversation
I get being misgendered. I mean, I didn’t today, what with the packing and the binding and the actual effort put into masculine presentation or whatever, but in general, I only pass 50% of the time, tops. So that wasn’t the issue.
The issue was my boss saying that it’s okay to misgender me because everyone else does.
No. Sir, Bossman, I disagree with that statement.
For a little context: This particular employer of mine has never known me in another gender expression. Early in my first shift I sat down with him and his partner/my other employer, and talked to them about my preferred name and pronouns. So that would’ve been the beginning of May 24 weekend. That was quite a while ago, and there was nothing to adjust from. So, what’s been happening is that every single interaction I have with him involves him misgendering me, using creepy terms of endearment (good girl, little lady, etc) and when I correct his pronoun usage, he just brushes it off and states, “I’m sorry BUT I’m adjusting.” Adjusting. You’re fucking adjusting? NO. My parents are adjusting. My brother is adjusting. My friends are adjusting. You, sir, don’t see me as male because I don’t have the kind of cock you’re into. You don’t respect me enough to use my proper name and pronouns, and you have no qualms about using them in front of other people that know me and that I work with, who also consistently misgender me because of YOU. If you’re going to apologize, fucking apologize. Don’t say “I’m sorry BUT”. That invalidates your apology.
Trainer, look! Your A P O L O G Y is evolving!
Your A P O L O G Y evolved into
An E X C U S E !
Do you want to give your E X C U S E a nickname?
Okay, enough with the pokemon references. Sorry. Anyway, back to my point though - Grant is a fucking scumbag and he doesn’t respect me enough as a human to even validate my identity. I’ve been working four days a week since end of May. Certainly that’s enough time to adjust when you have nothing to adjust from, right?
Anyway, what the fuck do I do about this? I’m getting paid under the table and I’m not unionized.
Three more weekends. Three more weekends.