TW: rape, rape apologism
On my personal blog, someone asked what I thought about the discussion regarding Ira Gray and accusations of him being a serial rapist. Then a request was made for me to make my response rebloggable and also to post it here on Project Queer.
The following is the original question and my response.
Anonymous asked:TW: rape —— what do you think of the discussion going around tumblr regarding IRa Gray involving rape accusations?My response is as follows:
Firstly, I would like to apologise for taking awhile to respond to this. I have worked 20 hours in the past 48 and have had limited internet access in that time.
In regards to your question, I found out about the rape accusations about 24 hours ago. It makes me feel sick. Ira has been an active voice in the trans* and queer communities for a long time now. This being brought to light changes everything for me - and everyone who has ever looked up to Ira, confided in him, sought advice or education from him, etc. What really stuck out to me in the whole scenario is how Ira responded to the rape accusations. This makes me feel even sicker. (You can read his response here. TW: rape) After reading that, I could not even form words. I was just appalled.
However, missvoltairine has done an excellent job of conveying what I think about it in this post:
If you would like to know more about what happened, you can check out the accusations from two different folks here, here, and here. One of the folks goes into an in-depth explanation of what happened here.
(TW: Before you click any of the aforementioned links, please be aware that the links have detailed accounts of rape, rape apologism.)
If you have any questions, the survivors have made themselves available and open - just remember to be respectful. If anyone would like to comment or discuss this, I am open to it as well. This sort of thing cannot be ignored, tolerated, or otherwise dismissed - no matter who the person is. It needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.
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